The Significance of the First Look: Why You Might Want to Consider It
One of the most common questions I get from my couples is:
"Should we do a first look?"
If you’ve found yourself reading this, chances are you’re asking the same thing—and I totally get it. There’s a lot to think about when planning your wedding day, and deciding whether to see your partner before the ceremony is a big one.
While the idea of a “first look” might feel a little untraditional, it’s something I wholeheartedly recommend. Not only does it create a deeply emotional and intimate moment for the two of you, but it can also transform the flow of your entire wedding day. Let me share why I think first looks are such a powerful addition to your celebration.
What Is a First Look?
A first look is a private moment (well, semi-private—we’ll be discreetly photographing it!) between you and your partner before the ceremony begins. It’s the first time you see each other all dressed up and ready to say “I do,” and it’s often one of the most emotional and beautiful parts of the day.
Easing the Wedding Day Nerves
Let’s be honest—wedding days are magical, but they can also be a little chaotic. There’s so much happening, so many emotions flying, and so many people around you. A first look creates a peaceful pocket of time just for the two of you. It’s a chance to slow down, breathe, and connect before the whirlwind of the day begins.
If you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or just so ready to see your partner, this moment can be incredibly grounding. It’s a reminder that at the heart of all the planning and details, it’s about the two of you. And sometimes, that simple reassurance—seeing your person—makes everything else melt away.
Smoother Timeline, More Relaxed Day
One of the most practical (and often overlooked) benefits of a first look is what it does for your timeline. Traditionally, couples wait to see each other until the ceremony, which means all portraits—of the two of you, your bridal party, and often family—need to be squeezed in between the ceremony and reception.
That time crunch can be stressful. You’re trying to round everyone up for photos while your guests are waiting, the light might be fading, and your hair and makeup may no longer be as fresh as they were earlier in the day.
But with a first look, we can get so much done ahead of time:
Bride & Groom portraits
Wedding party photos
(Potentially) family portraits
That means after the ceremony, you’ll have more time to actually enjoy your cocktail hour with your guests—or sneak away for a few golden hour photos while everyone mingles. Either way, your day flows more smoothly, and you get to spend more time celebrating rather than rushing around.
An Intimate, Emotion-Filled Moment
One of the most beautiful things about a first look is the emotion it brings out. It’s raw, it’s unscripted, and it’s just for you two. Unlike the ceremony, where all eyes are on you and emotions can sometimes feel a bit “on stage,” the first look is private and quiet. You can laugh, cry, hold each other, whisper sweet words—whatever feels natural in that moment.
Couples often tell me afterward that the first look was their favorite part of the entire day.
“Won’t It Spoil the Aisle Moment?”
This is probably the number one concern I hear—and I totally understand it. Many couples wonder if seeing each other before the ceremony will take away from the moment when they lock eyes walking down the aisle.
But here’s the truth:
It doesn’t take anything away.
If anything, it enhances it.
Your walk down the aisle is still incredibly special. It’s a different kind of magic—there’s music, guests, the moment you officially say “I do.” And even if you’ve already had a first look, the emotions are just as powerful. I’ve seen many grooms tear up again the moment their bride walks toward them—even after a first look.
Because let’s face it—this is your wedding day. These are once-in-a-lifetime moments, and each one holds its own weight and beauty.
At the End of the Day…
A first look isn’t for everyone, and that’s okay. But if you’re on the fence, I hope this helped you see the emotional and practical value it brings. It’s a chance to share a quiet moment, center yourselves, and truly soak in the beginning of your journey together.
Whether you choose to do a first look or not, my job is to make sure your day is captured beautifully and authentically—exactly the way it feels. But if you ask me? First looks are pure magic.
Want help deciding if a first look is right for your day? I’m always happy to talk it through with you. Let’s create a timeline that fits your vision, your vibe, and your love story.
